How do you feel when someone calls you a failure or they tell you what you did was wrong? We usually don’t like the feeling after these words. How do you feel when someone says you did a great job or that they are proud of you? Sometimes we puff up like a peacock and are uplifted by the positive words. Now do you want to be the person who gives the negative words or the positive words? Think about that for a minute, most of us want to be the ones who give positive words to inspire and encourage others.
If we all want to be encouragers to others then why would we not choose to give positive words to the most important person we know, ourselves! You should realize that just someone else speaks to us in a positive or negative manner, we have a reaction to those words; it is even more intense when we are the ones speaking positivity or negativity into our own lives.
I had someone ask me a question today about a little boy who was having behavior problems in their church. She was at her wit’s end and said the parents were defensive and didn’t do anything to help her out with their problem child. I talked with her and asked her how she would feel if every time she went to pick up her child from church or daycare or wherever if the teacher was always telling her what a problem her child was at what point would she not become defensive. I asked her if there was a threat of being kicked out of everywhere she went with her child, how would she feel about that? I asked her to think about all the outside negativity and how it would affect the mother’s inside thoughts. She quickly realized that it was time to partner up with that mom and help change the negative talk into positive talk so that the environment around the child could change before he was filled with negativity from the inside out.
It really is true that our attitudes and actions come from the inside out. When we choose to think on positive things and talk to ourselves in a positive manner, our attitude becomes more positive and we are more able to freely love others. The opposite is true as well. The Bible gives us a prescription for this in Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
How’s your self-talk? Isn’t it time you were kind to you for a while. I dare you to change your inner talking and be kind to the little kid inside of you and see how he or she responds. I bet you’ll like the outcome! I believe in you! Let me know how it goes!
Some things are simply out of our control and other things we don’t need to control, but one thing we are in charge of is our day to day life. Think about waking up to the smell of fresh coffee because we set the timer the night before, having your quiet/devotional time with fresh coffee and the sausage balls you had made in advance, stepping out of the shower into the freshly pressed clothes we laid out last night before, and enjoying a peaceful start to your day. Compare that with waking up and wondering what we are going to wear, or if anything is even clean for today, not having time for a quiet devotional to begin your day, not having time for a quiet devotional to begin your day, hunting down the coffee filters because our child borrowed them for an art project, and leaving for the day with no food in our tummy because we weren’t prepared. Which start of your day seems to put you on the road to an awesome, peaceful rest of your day?
When we put routines in place, they aren’t there to harm us, but to help us. They make all the difference between a peaceful or a frantic start to our day.
Have you ever noticed that sometimes it seems our lives seem out of control? What about when the snow and ice come and our plans have to be changed? What about when we’re looking forward to doing something and we can’t go due to illness? What about the time when someone else’s choice forces a change in something we were doing?
These and many other things can cause us to look at our day with frustration or negativity. Neither of these emotions will help us in our lives. Instead of worrying about what is out of our control, how about we look at some systems that can help us feel empowered!
How does your day start? Is it more like the first or second scenario above? Doesn’t the first one sound so much nicer, and a better way to start? Good, I think so too. Wanna know how to get a smooth morning? Of course you do, so here’s the trick. It’s a well-kept secret that should be shouted from the top of the highest mountain: get as much ready the night before as possible. It probably won’t take more than 30 minutes or so, but making sure everything is ready for your tomorrow day just before going to bed will give you the peaceful morning time you’ve always wanted. Not only that, but having a routine signals your brain you’re ready to sleep well tonight because you know that tomorrow is going to begin without the chaos that’s happened in the past. Routines allow us to do the creative things our brains were meant to do, not worry about the little, mundane things we do every single day.
I challenge you to try a new routine and see how well it compliments your wonderful attitude and lends to days being better than ever. Double dog dare ya!