In teaching my kid classes at the local community college I often hear kids tell me they can’t do something. For instance, when I was teaching a cooking class, we were decorating an enchanted castle. I asked the kids to take turns icing the cake. They were all hesitant because they felt they could not do it correctly. I tried to gently guide them but mostly encourage them that they WERE good enough in however they chose to ice the cake.
What a powerful lesson that taught me. These kids weren’t ignorant of how to decorate the cake, they didn’t have the experience I have. I’m not any better at it than they are, I’ve just done it a few (thousand) times more.
How often do we put ourselves or our kids down because something isn’t done “right.” Who is to say what “right” is anyway? And if we lack experience in something but we do the best we can, are we wrong? NO WAY! We just need to learn and practice to improve. We don’t sit down at a piano and play a beautiful piece without practice. We don’t learn our multiplication tables without some practice. We don’t enter school knowing how to do reading, writing and arithmetic. We all have a period of learning in our lives. With a little encouragement we can even build up our self-esteem along the way because we realize we are good enough to do a project, we just lack experience. With experience comes what others perceive as perfection but we ALL have to start somewhere.
Start today with encouraging your kids and watch their abilities blossom.